Ki Theitze: passion
Ki Theitze: passion
A hidden power resides in the written word. It is a communication from a ghost, an entity without substance, often a dead person. Receiving the message requires skills that have become automatic: translating pictures into letters, letters into words, words into meaning. The complexity of the process engages some critical facilities, algorithms that question the accuracy of transmission and the validity of the message. Processes that quiet the questioning are also engaged. Reading generates a tickle asking : "who am I, really?"
Many people read for pleasure. What is that pleasure? The acquisition of information? The resolution of a mystery? The titillation of a romance? They all share the tickle.
Ki Theitzei is a very exciting parsha. It provides the pleasure of excitement and the questions that accompany the feelings.
Ki Theitzi opens with:
כִּֽי־תֵצֵ֥א לַמִּלְחָמָ֖ה עַל־אֹיְבֶ֑יךָ
When you go out to battle against your enemies
The stage is set in the first four words. Merely going out, leaving the familiar, the first two words, involves courage. In the modern world, we have a large sphere of familiarity. When I drive my car to the airport, get on a small plane, fly to San Juan Island, I have not gone out. I have stayed inside the familiar. Going out means that you do not know what will confront you.
" Go out to battle "raises the emotional intensity enormously. Now there is mortal danger; you could die. It is a battle. You may need to kill. If you meet people you cannot identify, you may need to kill them, even in a state of doubt. You will have to live with your deeds. You may be killed and your children will become captive slaves. You may kill, and you will be haunted. It is an intense opening.
The first sentence assumes (a Gd granted) victory. Now we deal with the consequences. The instructions for dealing with the captive woman is a rich soup of indulgence and prohibition, cruelty and kindness.
The parsha shows some guarded tolerance for passion. It is allowing the captive to become a wife or a concubine. In the Torah, such a compromise with passion is shocking. This contrasts with prevailing American culture. Modern movies celebrate passion.. Passion is a source of the greatest pleasure; even if the object of desire is never attained. In American culture, passion is beautiful. My assumption (based on the tradition as I have it) is that: In the Torah, passion is dangerous. In the Torah, passion is not an excuse, certainly not a valid motivation. The guarded tolerance seen here is a very rare exception.
Passion has its moment in the post-Mosaic canon. The story of David and Bathsheba makes this passion, with its murderous and adulterous aspect, an immortal story. The product of this liaison becomes David's successor, the wisest of men, Shlomo ( my namesake). David was a man of passion.
The Midrash Tanchuma on Ki Theize uses another story of David as the exemplar of the consequence of succumbing to passion. The Midrash connects the captive wife with the hated wife of our parsha, the mother of the firstborn son who may not be denied the right of [double portion] primogeniture and, ultimately, the wayward child who is killed by the system. David's second son, Absalom is the product of David's union with Maacah bat Talmai, whom the Midrash identifies as a captive woman. Absalom, with his treasonous rebellion, becomes the model of the wayward son, the ultimate product of the passion for the captive woman. Solomon, David's successor, the paradigm of wisdom, is the product of the adulterous and murderous passion for Bathsheba.
Is passion good or bad; is it an overwhelming force or is it a force to fear and tame and control. I am confused. I cannot say that history plays out independent of passion, maybe it is like fire.
Passion permeates the parsha, but most of it is subtle and goes by other names. Greed, as presented in the parsha is unjustified acquisition. Hiding from helping another or keeping a lost object is the passion of selfishness. Acting on passion always involves resolving the internal conflict between inertia and action. The resolution of passivity also has the scent of passion; it is the first step in ‘going out, כִּֽי־תֵצֵ֥א.
In the parsha, desires are assumed, but limits are set:
כִּ֤י תָבֹא֙ בְּכֶ֣רֶם רֵעֶ֔ךָ וְאָכַלְתָּ֧ עֲנָבִ֛ים כְּנַפְשְׁךָ֖ שׇׂבְעֶ֑ךָ וְאֶֽל־כֶּלְיְךָ֖ לֹ֥א תִתֵּֽן׃ {ס}
When you enter a fellow Israelite’s vineyard, you may eat as many grapes as you want, until you are full, but you must not put any in your vessel.
Denial of greedy behavior evolves into concern for the destitute, which is also expressed with intensity:
לֹא־יַחֲבֹ֥ל רֵחַ֖יִם וָרָ֑כֶב כִּי־נֶ֖פֶשׁ ה֥וּא חֹבֵֽל׃ {ס}
A hand mill or an upper millstone shall not be taken in pawn, for that would be taking someone’s life in pawn.
The theme of power, and the attempt to control its abuse, runs through the parsha. The worker must be paid in a timely manner; the debtor cannot be made destitute by compound interest, the pawn shop client deserves dignity. Power over others leads to consequences, and the human lord is not omniscient, the unexpected will happen.
The rules are inconvenient, they can be expensive, they can be obscure. The rational edicts, the ones that seem kind and respectful, are comforting, they feel justified. But justice seems to be a timebound concept and there are new ways to change our sense of what is right and wrong that are being employed.
There is a chiastic structure to the parsha. The end reflects the beginning. The parsha opens with a victory against an unidentified enemy. It ends with the obligation to obliterate the memory of Israel’s eternal enemy, Amalek.
The Amalek of my parent's generation. the Nazis, tried to annul the material progress the Jews had achieved. As the Jews were emerging from their oppression of disenfranchisement in Europe, now able to achieve their newfound dreams; just as they were seeing the European enlightenment as an alternate path to the Old Torah that taught them to eternally hate Amalek, the force of cancellation rose (again?) to create another eternal enemy, whose memory must be erased and can never be forgotten.
Now Jew-hatred is fueled by reports that the state of Israel is violating what many of the laws in this week’s parsha have evolved into: human rights. It is such a severe accusation that the attempt to find justification feels uncomfortable. There are tradeoffs. Greater concern for civilians means more soldiers are killed and wounded. Does victory bring a better peace than settlement? I cannot validate a murderously antisemitic organization Hamas. I just want it to end. I want it never to happen again. Justice is a dream.
There is much more to write... but you must pursue your passions.